The truth is fairly simple, life can be unequivocally messy. It can trap you in a corner and beat the best of us down with the deadly trappings of a series of unfortunate events. For some of us, it’s not enveloping circumstances, rather battling our own personal demons.
Over the last few years as I’ve slowly (and begrudgingly) transitioned from adolescence to young adulthood it has become apparent that so many struggle with mental health issues. Whether you attribute this to social media and the rise of a generation of influencers or simply us breaking away from the stereotypical ‘don’t ask don’t tell’ the numbers don’t lie.
As some struggle, there are those who seem to supersede impossible circumstances. Which begs the question, what is that allows a person to continue to swim against the tide.
Resilience. A happy accident of birth or is it learned and nurtured?
I have not a clue. My knowledge of psychology is somewhat limited to pseudointellectual references to Freudian theories. Well at this point you must wonder why I’d blog about something I have no authority on – I’m wondering the same – but the reality of it is while most of us cannot lay claim to know a lot about either psychology or counselling or therapy, it’s not a topic that’ll leave you unscathed. The good news being, we’re all in the same boat.
Chances are you’ve been through a difficult spell yourself. You’ve watched friends or family do through a dark time or observed as a peer pulled away as sometimes people do. But here’s the golden nugget you’ve been waiting for; resilience can be a learned and applied science.
Resilience comes with ownership of yourself and your choices. It comes with accepting the burden of responsibility for the rights and the wrong’s that have led to this exact point. It comes with knowing that however long it may take, there is always calm after the storm. Naively utopian as it may sound, life is beautiful and incredible and fleeting. Embrace the mess, from one control-freak to another, sometimes it’s okay not to have it all figured out.
I won’t be ridiculous enough to pretend to know/understand what your circumstances are but if you’re here reading this know that chances are, you’re doing better than most others. You have the opportunity to do as you see fit. Take control of the one thing that you can, your thoughts and your reactions to circumstances.
If you are privileged enough to be privy to someone’s thoughts, know that you can make all the difference to someone just by listening and being present. It’s a confusing time for us all, but most make it out just fine.
Until next time x